As a UN Spouse, when are you allowed to announce your status as Desperate Housewife?
Some like the life. Some were meant to be full-time moms and home-makers. I like it too. But I just can’t fill the emptiness that engulfs my days. Blame it on my mom. Blame it on my dad. They both taught me that a woman has to earn her independence and never rely on a man’s wallet to feel secure. Blame it on my husband. He made it clear that he would never marry a “typical Egyptian” because, in his mind, she would be a spoilt, sheltered girl who always relies on the men in her life to take care of her. That’s why he married me, he says. No pressure there… no pressure at all! I moved to New York over 7 months ago… I tried online courses. I got busy with GREs and Toefels and school applications. I didn’t get into the single program I applied for. So yes… I’m disappointed. But that’s OK, this too shall pass! What I worry about is the prospect of another full year of doing…. NOTHING. Is it healthy to have nothing to talk about other than new dish recipes and child sicknesses? Is it normal that the only source of real fun is when my new-found friends invite me to their inner circle and go out to lunch? Is it OK that after so many years of pursuing higher education and building, NO: hand- carving a career despite all the moving around, I’m back to square zero, not even SQ 1?? Maybe it is. I just have to find it in me to accept it. Or maybe this itching to do more, and achieve more is an infliction that many other roaming spouses suffer from. We just don’t share our thoughts enough. So I hereby officially announce: I’m the new DHW of Westchester NY. Let’s see how many will join the club and maybe then… our sheer number will make me feel finally empowered. Too bad no hunky plumber is moving in my hood anytime soon ;)
The question of who I am usually yields a different answer every... two to four years!
Sometimes, I'm a PR and Media Professional. I'm also a freelance Journalist. But the only constant job I have is that of a typical Roamer...
A United Nations Spouse who has followed her husband to yet, another destination.
It keeps me busy and it keeps me alive but right now... It stands in the way!
In the way of fulfilling career aspirations.
In the way of ensuring a core sense of stability for my family.
In the way of defining who I am.
Like Roamers everywhere, I constantly have to deal with Nostalgia, Insecurity, and kids relying on imaginary friends to replace those left behind.
I have made it my mission to investigate these issues and share with fellow Roamers tips and insights to overcome the hurdles of our lives and find peace with a rootless life.